While being in the labour room with all the blood, can seem like a daunting experience, it may be the same for your partner. She may be equally scared and freaked out at the thought of the pain she may be anticipating during child birth or the health of the baby. But keeping those fears at bay and being in there with your partner will be the best support you can give. After all, yours will be the face she would look to, for support in that moment.
Here's how you can cope with your anxiety:
1. Plan before hand
2. Be calm
The experience maybe an emotional rollercoaster ride, but you will just have to handle it. Your partner will be in pain. There could also be some unexpected emergency situation that comes up. Your partner will throw tantrums and will yell and scream at you. Just stay calm and exude the coolness of a cucumber. Seeing you calm gives that much more strength to your partner to hang in there
3. Timing
In case you planned the delivery in advance, you may have time in hand before the delivery. Help her time the contractions to let the doctor know when she is ready for delivery. It would be handy to have a stop watch to help with this.
4. Deep breaths
While she is going through those contractions, look her in the eye and breathe in sync with her. Do not run off to call the nurse/ doctor; wait till the contraction is over. She needs your support there and she needs you to help her distract herself through the pain. Try finding a spot on the ceiling she can concentrate on or help her hold on to a baby toy that you bought together; be creative with this, stay calm and walk her through it.
5. Holding hands
Shouting "Go…you can do it" will only get her more irritated while she is in pain. Instead hold her hand, maintain eye contact, and just softly encourage her and assure her every once in a while that it's almost over and she's going to be fine.
6. Stick around
Yes, you are ecstatic on having this baby, and can't wait to spread this joy to the world. But don't run off 2 minutes after the birth; Stay with her; Get her water; Cuddle with her and the baby. Tell your partner how great she was and express your happiness to her first. Then go on telling everyone else.