It's time to make some time

The life of a new mother is full of challenges and also busy with no or very little time for anything or anyone else but the baby. That does not mean that the new mom does not need her time away or a break from the endless running around the baby. She wants to spend as much time with you as you want to spend with her. But the priorities have changed and the attachment with the baby is such that she trusts no one but just herself.

Getting the connection back requires making time for fun or anything else that allows you to release pent-up stress together. While going out to dinner and a movie is great, your time with the new mom doesn't have to be logistically challenging. Sometimes, it just takes a few minutes alone away from your baby to feel like you still have a life together.

Getting New Moms to move out:

Since moms are innately connected to their babies, they often find it very difficult to get away at first. No baby sitter or family member can be trusted; the baby might get hungry or cry and need her etc. Even though the best thing she can do is to get a break from the baby, she may not be able to bring herself to do it, even if she really wants to. There is a huge guilt that plays inside of her which does not let her do what is best for her.

The fact is she needs a break and you need to figure out how to make that happen.

Planning generally works:

A planned outing, with all the details put into place, makes a new mom feel more comfortable about stepping out. With mutual discussion you can decide to call out to a friend or family member whom the baby is comfortable with for a few hours while you spend your precious time away. Make sure you do not venture out to far off or adventurous places. You may have to get back at a moment's notice.

Date at Home

While getting out is important, so is relearning to have fun together in your own home. A quite dinner for two, a movie which you both enjoy or even just relaxing to your favorite music is a good idea to get that bond growing.

Sleeping Like an Angel

When the baby has just been put to bed, you have an opportunity to do something romantic with your partner. Establishing a little "our time now" on a regular basis is a huge milestone for new parents, and even an hour or so while your little angel sleeps, works.